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Apr 15, 2019

Infertility to Adoption – Post 9 “1 to 4 kids”

I left off with our sweet baby Mary leaving in Post 8. I also told you not to be too sad about it either, didn’t I? Well I’m going to tell you why now. Aren’t you excited! Brent and I had told DSS the word NO on two occasions since we had our loss. It was too soon and I had came down with the flu and pneumonia. It was terrible. So I finally am starting to feel better and we go to a continuing education class at DSS for our foster license. The topic of the class is all about knowing...Read More 

Apr 7, 2019

Infertility to Adoption – Post 8 “How long do we get to stay together?”

How long do we get to stay together? That was the question everyone wanted to know, including us. We knew that within 7 days of a child being removed from their parent’s custody, a hearing had to take place in front of the judge and the parents usually come to that hearing, especially if they are interested in reunification. Then DSS gives the parents a plan. This means that they have a list of things to do and accomplish to regain the possibility of being reunited with their children. When...Read More 

Dec 31, 2018

Infertility to Adoption – Post 7 “Bring on the babies”

This season of life can be summed up into one phrase. BRING ON THE BABIES! I can remember the day like it was yesterday. THE day we got our first foster call. I took the day off from work. It was a Friday, and I was cleaning like a mad woman that day. Upstairs, downstairs, the stairs themselves. We were planning on having a dinner that weekend to celebrate 1 year in our house. Two families from our church were coming over and we were gonna grill out. I remember telling my girlfriend that I was a...Read More 

Oct 30, 2018

Infertility to Adoption – Part 6 “Foster Care Class”

We were excited to begin Foster Care Class. Classes were two nights a week for 3 hours and I believe they were for 4 weeks. My husband and I learned so much about foster care during those classes. What we learned in Foster Care Class Here are the impressions I took away from the class. Every single child who has ever been in foster care has suffered trauma. No matter how clean, nice and safe your house is, children long to be with their birth parents. Especially age 2 and older. There is nothing...Read More 

Oct 14, 2018

Infertility to Adoption – Part 5 “Ordained Friendship”

Do you ever look back and realize your relationship with certain people changed the trajectory of your life? Well that is exactly what happen to us in 2011. I would call these ordained friendships. You often become like the people you associate with, and we associated with foster parents, so there ya go! To refresh your memory, we had found a great church in our new town of Mooresville, NC. We became friends with a particular family in our new church. We hung out with them and a handful of other...Read More 

Sep 24, 2018

Infertility to Adoption – Part 4 “Life on Hold”

Ever feel like your life is on hold? I felt that way, like our lives were on hold for the next year. Maybe it was more survival. We were 29 and 32 at the time. I left off my last post (Is IVF for us?)  with my husband loosing his job. Many of you can relate and you know how scary it is to be laid off, especially when you have built a life that requires two incomes. So there we were calculating how long it would be until we would be unable to pay our bills. We decided to sell our home just before...Read More 

Aug 24, 2018

Infertility to Adoption – Part 1 “You Will Never Have Children”

It’s been 10 years ago since I found out I would never get pregnant. Since I was told, you will never have children. It’s been 10 years since I was told I would never be able to have children. And it’s still an emotional thing to write about. I’m actually shedding a few tears as I type this in my basement office on a Friday night. My husband is working in the garage on his favorite car, and I’m writing this to you gals. We had no idea what our future would hold in this...Read More 

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