Aug 19, 2018

Scheduling Sex

Scheduling sex leads to more of it.

So are you having enough sex? Well, are you? We were not. We were often just giving each other our barely awake selves at the end of a long day, and I want more for us. My husband for sure wants more sex. I believe your sex life, in most cases, is a reflection of the health of your marriage. And I want a bangin’ marriage. Pun definitely intended.

Talk about your expectations with your mate.

So my husband and I talked in depth about it. We talked about what we like and what we would like more of. It was a little awkward, but that’s ok. We know each other better than anyone else. And if you can’t tell your husband of nearly 16 years what you like, then maybe you need more advice than I can give you in this blog post. Just sayin’.

Now that my face is heating up from the thoughts of my parents reading this, I’m getting a little nervous.

Anyway, if you know me personally or have watched my YouTube Channel  Monica Says, you know I like a schedule and routine. I also like my husband. A lot. When we were having this sex convo recently on date night, I told him I thought we should schedule sex. We schedule everything else that matters to us. So why not schedule intimacy with each other? He was totally down with it. And we chose two nights that work out well for our schedules.

Put SEX on the calendar.

So now it’s on the calendar. Sundays and Wednesdays are gonna be sure thing days for us. This way, we know that we need to conserve some energy for each other. We know that we have both made the decision to be together in a way that connects us like no other.

So last night was Sunday night and we stayed up too late. But we made a promise and stuck to it. And I’m so glad we did. Sex = a better night sleep in my opinion. And sex = stress relief for me too. I don’t know of a momma on the planet that couldn’t benefit from some stress relief.

I know it doesn’t sound romantic, but who cares? We can be spontaneous the other days of the week. With four kids and careers, we have to schedule our minimum-to-function intimate time. Here’s to getting down to business with your man. Go get it ladies!

Here is a personally tested item to help enjoy each other on those quickie nights!

Anyone else schedule sex?

Don’t be shy.

Thanks for reading! Please like and share this or send a link to a friend who can use some marriage encouragement. Also, send it to your man and discuss what you can do to keep the flame burning. #monicasays

Update 4 months in to scheduling sex!

Update! It’s been 4 months since we began scheduling sex. Annnddddd, it’s been good. I would highly recommend choosing a couple days a week with your man and sticking to it. Now, we have had sickness or other things come up, so we are not sticking to this 100% of the time, but about 90% of the time we do. It’s been good. We both enjoy having sex more often and knowing time is set aside for this important aspect of our relationship. 

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5 thoughts on “Scheduling Sex

  1. Great advice, you cannot ignore what God intended for marriage.
    God knew this would keep your marriage strong and keep you and your husband connected and faithful to each other in a way that nothing else comes close to.

  2. Wow, this is so important and even though scheduling sex sounds silly you are so right that reschedule everything else and how many of those things are less important than keeping intimacy in your marriage! Definitely going to get this a try thanks Monica!

    1. Yeah at first it seems like an odd thing to pencil in on the calendar, but it’s so important. It’s been a game changer for us. Thanks for reading and commenting Danica!

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